Why I Quit Pointless Relationships.
Quitting a relationship is never easy, but sometimes it’s necessary to stay sane and happy. The people we surround ourselves with will always greatly influence what we become and the quality of our lives. Sure, we are our own boss, and we are responsible for everything we do, say and think – HOWEVER, we are influenced from everywhere… our family, friends, co-workers, and even the people we follow on social media!
I’m fully aware that most of what I post on Insta in one shape or form will influence some of the people seeing it. That is why I make such a great effort in creating content that motivates and inspires my followers to bring More Light, Love and Magic into their lives.
But, where social media comes with a mute and block button, real life doesn’t! In real life, we need to take our big girl/boy pants on and deal with unhealthy relationships more head-on, than just clicking a button.
Reason #1 – They Show a Lack of Respect.
For me, respect is just as important as loyalty, trust, and support!
When a relationship becomes pointless, it’s because there is a lack of respect. Often the relationship has turned one-sided, and you are holding on to an illusion of what once was or what you wanted it to be.
Reason #2 – There Must Be a Balance Between Giving & Receiving.
The Universal Law of Giving & Receiving states that there must be an equal balance between what you give and what you receive.
If I have a relationship with someone where I feel I’m putting in more effort than the other person, or if I feel that I’m not prioritising putting in any effort myself, then I know it’s time to walk away.
We all only have 24 hours in our day, where 8 hours should be devoted to sleep, which leaves 16 hours back for work and free time. If we can’t prioritise putting effort into a relationship, then it’s better to set each other free. Who knows, maybe you would find your way back to each other when times are better.
Reason #3 – They Are Energy Vampires.
Some pointless relationships become so because we are drained of Energy when we are engaging with the other person. We feel exhausted, annoyed, and disrespected because the other person doesn’t listen to what we say. It’s all about them and what they want, which leaves very little room for us.
A purposeful relationship should be equal for both; not where one is doing all the giving, and the other is only taking!
Reason #4 – I Don’t Want To Be An Option.
The last kind of pointless relationship I’m quitting is when I feel that I’m an option rather than a choice!
The downside of “being easy to be around and being easy to talk to” is I’m often left as an option rather than a choice. I don’t know if it’s because people feel it’s boring. After all, I’m not challenging the relationship or having expectations of what they should do and say. Maybe it’s because I’m giving them the freedom to be exactly who they are, which makes it feel too safe to be in my company. “Sabrina will always be there… no reason to fight for her friendship! I can always count on her to be there!” While I’m grateful people feel so safe around me, it still hurts me when they take me for granted like that.
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