As Lightworkers, we are usually Highly Sensitive and Introvert. We feel everything so much, and we want everyone to be happy. When other people are happy, we’re happy. When someone isn’t happy, we want to do everything we can to make them feel happy – even if it has nothing to do with us.
So how can the sweet and gentle Lightworkers be badass?
Step #1 – Know What You Represent.
Besides wanting to make the world a better place and make sure that everyone is happy… what do you represent?
What are you passionate about?
What kind of channel do you want to be in the world?
Who do you want to be in this world if you could be anything you want to be?
Being a Lightworker is much more than just wanting to make the world a better place. You must put your words into action and do something about it.
Knowing what you represent isn’t so much about your Light WORK – it’s your morals, values, and what you believe in.
Step #2 – Know Your Why.
Without a “WHY”, you won’t get anywhere… I want you to think of your “WHY” as the fuel or the drive to what you’re trying to accomplish. It’s not just in the matters of being badass, but really in anything in life.
When I shared my story about being abused as a child on national television, my “WHY” was to be a voice for all the children who share a similar story. Most kids growing up with domestic violence can’t ask for help or tell anyone what’s going on at home because it can jeopardise their life, and kids are extremely loyal to their parents. So I went on national television to share my story to give the other kids a public voice. Because I had my “WHY” in check, it was easier for me to defend myself when the shitstorm from my mother and brother hit me… and it was easier for my dad, my sister, and everyone else who was caught in the middle of this.
The “WHY” is important because it helps you to get through the rough days, the days where you want to give up, and it gives you the inspiration to continue. It also helps you to have the courage to do things you normally would be too afraid of, like making a phone call or sending an email to someone in a powerful position, or reaching out to someone you don’t really know, but as you know can help you.
Step #3 – Know Your Strengths.
You aren’t supposed to do everything yourself. There are Lightworkers who have the same mission as you but are called to fulfil it in different ways. That’s why there never is any competition between Lightworkers.
When you know what your mission is, your call, your Light WORK, then it’s time to look at your talents and what comes naturally to you.
In my case, I’m a writer and a public speaker! – these are the ways that come naturally for me to help others. I don’t make video content because I, honestly, don’t like it and aren’t passionate enough about it to deal with the discomfort. And we both know that if I’m not passionate about something, it is not gonna happen. So I let those who love making video content do video content while I stick with writing and speaking in front of a live audience. Also, I’m a businesswoman, and I’m super solution-oriented. I’m good at coming up with ideas and mapping out a plan to make them happen.
Step #4 – Know Your Weaknesses.
To be badass also requires you to be mature enough to know (and admit) your weaknesses. When something is your weakness, you have two options.
- Learn it.
- Delegate it to someone who has already mastered it.
We all only have 24 hours, and 8 of them should be dedicated to your sleep. While I believe you always should make an effort in educating yourself and gaining more skills, I also believe that you should stick to your expertise and let others use their expertise.
The good thing about talents and strengths is we can complete each other. When you know your weaknesses, you can use that knowledge to find someone who mastered them and thereby help you be complete the task. When we can supplement each other, we stand stronger than if we should do everything on our own.
Step #5 – Be Humble.
You can be the most brilliant, smartest, creative genius on the planet. Still, without humbleness, you’ll just come across as a jerk.
As Lightworkers, we have skills, abilities, and superpowers others don’t have, but that doesn’t mean we are better than anyone else. The reasons for our incarnations are just different from people who aren’t Lightworkers.
Being a badass isn’t about being better or more brilliant than anybody else. It’s about being assertive, confident, and having a mission. The key elements in being a badass are to stand up for something and know your “WHY”.
The need to be better, more brilliant, smarter, creative, etc., are all needs of the ego, the Fear-Based Mind. When you are humble about your skills, talents, abilities and superpowers, you’ll most likely attract more opportunities to share them with the world. When you’re humble, you’re coming from your heart. You have awareness about what you’re good at, but you don’t let your ego take charge.
Let take me an example; I’m an Incarnated Seraph! That is not a secret anymore, and it’s not something I’m hiding. I’m very upfront and honest about it… and damn, it has made my life a trillion times easier. But being an incarnated seraph doesn’t make me any better than anyone else. I have flaws, too, and there are things I’m terrible at or simply don’t get. I’m humble about the things I can do and my abilities. I don’t feel any need to be a show-off or prove myself to anyone. It’s not my job to make anyone believe I’m who I say I am!
As Lightworkers, we all need to be better at letting people solve their own mess. It’s super difficult because Lightworkers are natural fix-upper’s. We are inclined to fix others and their mess to make their life easier for them because we believe we have the power to make their life better and easier. Lightworkers’ tendency to turn everything and anyone into their personal fix-up project is not Light WORK… it’s an act of the ego’s need to feel needed.
We need to know when it’s time for others to solve their mess and get their life back on track. Our job is to hold their hand and lend a shoulder to cry on… to be supportive… but it’s up to the person to fix their own life.
Step #6 – Be Assertive.
There is a fine line between being humble and being shy!
If you’re good at something, let the world know!
If you have amazing talents, let the world know!
Remember, it’s not bragging if it’s the truth!
Be proud of yourself and who you’re! – all I’m asking for is not getting into your ego!
Assertiveness has got a bad reputation because it has become associated with loud, rude, and egocentric people. Of course, no one wants to be a jerk! The thing is, that kind of behaviour is not assertive! It’s insecurity dressed as being a self-righteous narcissistic jerk.
Real assertiviness is:
- Genuine self-confidence.
- Genuine self-esteem.
- Genuine self-love.
- No need for approval or validation from anyone.
- Not giving a shit about what other people think about you. You’re not here to please anyone. You’re here to do a job.
- Prioritising your own needs and health before anything else.
- Being able to say no without feeling the need to explain or apologise for it.
- Knowing your worth and not being afraid to ask for a wage that reflects that.
- Have courage enough to reach out to the people who can help you achieve your goals. The worst thing that could happen is if they say no! If so, you just move on to the next person in line.
- Your relationships are created on mutual respect, loyalty, honesty, care, and support.
Do you see the pattern? Assertiveness is resting yourself and having peace about who you are. It is honouring and having inner peace with who you are without others’ approval.
Step #7 – Be Realistic.
The truth is, nothing is too big or too small for you to manifest. You can have anything you want! However, the reason why you don’t already have anything you want is because of your limiting beliefs and ideas. It’s not that the Universe works against you or something isn’t possible… the problem is your mindset and what you think is possible.
I have learned the hard way that it’s a good idea to be realistic with yourself. You can have anything you want, and the Universe is more than open to giving it to you – but you might not be at the right time and place for it to manifest just yet.
If you should be honest with yourself, are you then genuinely ready for all the success, money, love, happiness, and so forth that you desire, or does it scare the bejeezus out of you? If something scares you, there is a high chance that you’re going to sabotage it for yourself in one way or another.
The solution for that is to be realistic! Not with what is possible in your outside circumstances, but what is realistic for you where you are right now.
- What is realistic with your current health?
- What is realistic with your current finances?
- What is realistic with your current living situation?
- What is realistic with your current knowledge and skills?
When you’re looking at what is realistic where you are right now, you’re opening the doors for finding a solution. You have complete power over yourself, so if you want to change any of these circumstances, then you can do it. It might not be realistic for you to make $50.000/mo right now, but it doesn’t mean it won’t be realistic when you grow your skills within your chosen field, get more experience, and grow more confident in yourself. Did you know that your self-worth is reflected by the digitals of your net worth?
You shouldn’t wait for the outside world to change to go after what you want. You should focus on growing your self-esteem and your skills.
When you can look yourself in the mirror, and know that you every day do the very best you can to be the very best version of yourself, and you’re unapologetic about who you are, then you’re a badass.
I want to hear from you: What are you doing to be more badass?
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